How to compromise during divorce mediation

 Posted on November 01, 2017 in Divorce Mediation

Many marriages unfortunately end in divorce. In Texas in 2013, over 76,000 divorces took place, which was actually lower than the previous year that saw over 80,000 divorces in the state.

To save money and preserve emotions during a divorce, many couples opt for mediation. This is an excellent step to take. However, it is going to end up fruitless if the two spouses cannot compromise. For anyone concerned about doing this, here are some tips for becoming a better compromiser.

Differentiate between needs and wants

Before going into a mediation session, people ought to figure out what they truly need rather than what they merely want. A person may want the fancy Ferrari, but it is not a necessity if there is another car in the picture. When people decide what they really need, they know what they can part with during the equitable division of assets.

Understand the ex

While there may be some ill will between two spouses divorcing, it is important for both of them to keep the channels of communication open. Through private discussions, both people can understand what the other needs. By showing how open you are, the spouse may decide to give up certain items.

Understand you will not get everything

It is natural to shoot for the moon. However, you are going to end up disappointed. Understand you may not get everything, and that is all right. You may realize you do not actually need the marital home and could benefit from a change of scenery. Keep an open mind.

Do what is right for you

During a divorce, it is good to talk to family and friends about the process. It can be good to get emotions off your chest, but these people may feel tempted to offer their own opinion on what to do. It is not unheard of for friends and family members to suggest taking the ex to court and try to get everything. Most of the time, this is unrealistic. You need to do what is best for you and your emotional health, and avoiding court is a good step in that direction.