3 Issues that may influence your decision to divorce

 Posted on April 13, 2021 in Divorce

When you got married in a Texas church, courthouse or other location, you no doubt expected to be with your spouse for a lifetime. Whether you’ve been together less than five years or more than a decade, if there are underlying issues in your marriage that are unresolved, it can do a lot of damage to your relationship. There are certain issues, in fact, that many spouses say were causal factors in their divorce.

Just because you experience one or more of these issues does not necessarily mean you will wind up filing for divorce. However, such issues are common among people who do.

Communication, intimacy and loyalty are important in a marriage

Perhaps you and your spouse have drifted apart over time and have found that you don’t have as much in common as you once did. It’s one thing to have different personalities but quite another to feel that your spouse is not supportive of you in your marriage. The following list shows issues that are often precursors to divorce:

• If you feel that your spouse doesn’t really listen when you’re discussing something or that he or she doesn’t care what you have to say, it can cause feelings of resentment or frustration.
• Lack of intimacy is a problem that causes many marital arguments and is often a precursor to divorce.
• If your spouse has cheated on you, this might be a primary issue that influences your decision to file for divorce.

Each of these issues can cause a spouse to feel unloved, lonely or even angry in a marriage. If you’ve decided to divorce because you’ve encountered one or more of these issues, you’re not alone in your struggle. Many spouses who divorce cite these issues as determining factors in their decisions.

Ending things on a peaceful note

Just because you’ve decided that you’d rather move on in life without your spouse than stay in an unhappy marriage, this doesn’t mean you’re looking for a knock-down-drag-out court battle. You might want to settle your divorce as swiftly and amicably as possible.

Many Texas spouses finalize divorce without ever stepping foot inside a courtroom. To do this, you and your spouse must be willing to peacefully discuss all relevant issues that require decisions and agreement, such as child custody matters, property division or alimony. If you’re willing to cooperate and compromise as needed and agree to avoid confrontation, you can settle your divorce through mediation instead of litigation.